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Orgasm Therapy:

Mother Nature's Gift for Health, Wellness and Pleasure!

by Irisha Brown, M.Ed, Intimacy Coach

The Orgasm, that magnificent gift from Mother Nature, sets off the release in our bodies of a deliciously powerful “hormone cocktail” that includes endorphins, our built-in pain relievers; serotonin, one of the body’s mood regulators; dopamine, a neurotransmitter that facilitates feelings of pleasure and enjoyment; oxytocin, also known as “the cuddle hormone”, which increases feelings of trust and bonding, and DHEA, a steroid known to improve brain function and boost the health of the immune system.

With all of those natural hormones, chemicals, and neurotransmitters immediately available for free and willing to work on command for us, having at least one orgasm daily simply makes good health sense!

As a path to stress relief, orgasms work because in the short term, they cause our hearts to beat faster. Orgasms require increases in blood flow and a build-up of muscle tension, that when released, feels like the damn at Niagara Falls has been opened and causes a total release of the day’s tension which has built up within our nervous system.  And, if you have trouble sleeping, a toe-curling, body-and-mind-relaxing orgasm can be just what your body ordered to help you drift off into a peaceful, soothing sleep. 

Your skin benefits from a rousing orgasm too!  If you get worked up enough and break into a really good sweat, your body will flush toxins out your system by way of your perspiration, and it will release oils which will nourish the skin.

If you’re thinking about controlling your weight, good news: great orgasms can help you there too.  Orgasms spur the production of the chemical phenethylamine which is known to curb appetite, so treating yourself to an orgasm can help keep you from racing to the refrigerator and making friends with all the goods inside! 

And whether you are with a partner or simply pleasuring yourself, creating a fulfilling orgasm takes energy, so by regularly having orgasms you’ll be burning more calories and having a great time doing it!

Now, this next idea might seem counterintuitive. However, when you have menstrual cramps or a headache, if you treat yourself to an orgasm instead of an aspirin you may find that endorphins, your body’s natural pain reliever, will take your mind far, far away from the pain and help you experience a sense of relief and pleasure that you would miss if you simply went for the aspirin.  

And here’s more good news, Dr. Winifred Cutler, a research biologist, and co-founder of the Women's Wellness Program at the Hospital of the University of Pennsylvania, found that women who have weekly sexual activity have higher blood levels of estrogen,  a natural chemical that can help lower bad cholesterol, and increase good cholesterol, while adding to bone density and improving the health of your cardiovascular system.   Now really, what more could you ask for? 

Now, let’s talk about your immune system. Orgasms have been found to raise the level of
Immunoglobin A, an antibody which can boost production of infection-fighting cells in the body, and help strengthen the immune system so that flu and colds may be held at bay or fought off successfully.  So just by having  mind-blowing orgasms and taking care of yourself as you normally would, you could be preparing yourself well for that “other” season –winter- that is right around the corner!

Mother Nature has created the Magnificent Orgasm to provide a natural cure for much of what ails us. We have the power to maintain our health and pleasure satisfaction.  To do so, we simply need to use our imagination and take things into our own two hands (or those of our lovers’). 

We may need to free ourselves from various religious, cultural, or morality controls and norms, in order to really explore the gift of self-pleasure and orgasm therapy, but when we do, the sky is really the limit.

The new wisdom needs to be:  “An orgasm (or four!) a day and an apple, can help keep the
doctor away!”

Here’s to your health and toe-curling orgasm therapy!

  • The Art of Intimacy and
    Sexual Wellness
    Starting Points for Creating Intimacy

Irisha Brown, M. Ed.
Intimacy Coach

Psychological intimacy, or the ability to fully self-disclose has been cited in a research study of couples married an average of thirty years, as a significant indicator of relational satisfaction.  Partners reported a sense of connection, peace and contentment when they felt they could disclose as much as they needed or wanted to and still be accepted by their partners.

The health benefits of intimacy have been
documented as well.  Individuals who are able to share their thoughts and feelings in intimate relationships have been found to have lowered stress levels, increased self-esteem and –respect, and have increased their overall physical health as well.

That said, how do we promote, create and sustain an atmosphere where full self-disclosure (if so desired) may occur?

We might best begin with a bit of self-analysis and reflection. Our ideas, experiences with and behaviors around self-disclosure influence how much we give and, often, what we receive.

  • Here’s some food for thought:
    Who were you most intimate with within your family?  Why?
  • Who were your most intimate friends?  Why
    did you confide in them?  Were they intimate with you as well?
  • What do you most enjoy about intimacy? 
    What frightens you?
  • In general, how comfortable are you in
    confiding your thoughts and feelings?
  • How do you decide whom you will confide in?
  • In addition to your partner, whom do you
    confide in now?  Under what circumstances? 
    How often?  About what?  Why did you select them?
  • Why do people confide in you?  Why would
    they want to?
  • How judgmental are you?
  • Can you hear a confidence without giving
    advice or judging? 

Having a clear sense of how we relate to intimacy or self-disclosure, and what our comfort level is within it, will help us see how we may encourage or hinder
ourselves and others in the process. Thinking about these questions and asking them of our partner or friends can also help illuminate similarities and differences, which may impact the level of closeness and connection we create and feel.

We all thrive from feeling like we are accepted, valued and needed, so making sure our intimacy skills are finely tuned works for us and those in our circle.

Irisha Brown, M.Ed. is an Intimacy Coach and incurable romantic who loves to see lovers hard at work and play!
She welcomes your comments and questions. Contact her at: info@ie4me.com.

You may subscribe to and receive updates from her blog and podcasts: “The Art of Intimacy and Sexual Wellness” by signing up
at: theartofintimacyandsexualwellness.podmean

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